Current Student & Parent » LifeSkills for Parents and Students

LifeSkills for Parents and Students

Child Abuse Awareness & Prevention
The safety and well-being of all our faithful is of the utmost priority for our Catholic parishes, schools and ministries. As our Church commemorates Child Abuse Prevention Month this April, important resources and materials have been distributed to you from our Office of Safe Guard the Children to help inform and empower your parish/school communities to report misconduct, support victim-survivors, protect the vulnerable and prevent abuse. This information and resources can also be found at
This site has resources, tip sheets for parents, etc.

Parent resources from Web MD. If you suspect your child is being sexually abused -- or if you are a friend, neighbor, or relative of a child you believe is a victim -- the following organizations can help:

Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 4-A-CHILD ((800) 422-4453) or visit
Child Abuse National Hotline (800) 252-2873, (800) 25-ABUSE.

To find your local state child abuse hotline, check your local government directory under "Child Protective Services" or "Abuse Hotline."
Online you can find a directory of local state child abuse hotlines at:

To find a child-advocacy center in your area, call your local hospital.
Online visit the National Child Traumatic Stress Network,
For a direct link to a listing of child advocacy centers by state, visit
Cyber Bullying Awareness
The Amanda Todd Story: Cyberbullying led to suicide
Date Rape Awareness
Date rape is often used to describe when a rape occurs with a known person or date, a drug or substance is not always involved. Rape, is rape. If it is non-consensual, it is rape. It doesn’t require a knife or gun to constitute rape.
From WebMD:
From Urban Dictionary
Brock Turner Student Rape Story

Brock Turner conviction and reaction
Attitude of Brock Turner’s father – which clearly doesn’t understand the consequences to the victim
Mass Shooting Awareness

The tragic shooting in Florida is a stark reminder that schools must remain vigilant to potential threats in today’s world. As educators, we can’t help but think about all of the students we have had the blessing of working with over the years and see their faces in those who were impacted yesterday. We also continue to keep the communities in Ventura and Santa Barbara in our prayers after the fires and mudslides and the subsequent trauma associated with those tragedies.

Below are some resources from some national and government organizations that deal with students in times of trauma and stress. We pray daily that you will never need to utilize them but we want to be sure you do have access to them.

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network
Child Trauma Toolkit for Educators
What can be done at school to help a traumatized child?

U.S. Department of Education
Tips for Helping Students Recovering from Traumatic Events

American Psychological Association
Helping your children manage distress in the aftermath of a shooting

Centers for Disease Control
Coping with a traumatic event

National Association of Elementary School Principals
School Safety Resources

In this video created by the Mayo Clinic, teens describe common signs that a teen is considering suicide and provide encouragement for communicating directly and immediately for support and safety. It also includes suggestions for what to say to a teen who may be at risk for suicide and ways to keep them safe. Things can get better.


For more information-

Call: 1-800-273-TALK, 1-800-273-8255



Social Media Safety

Josh Ochs offering on-line Parent University courses to help make sure your child has a positive presence in social media.

In August 2016, Damien High School hosted Josh Ochs, founder of Safe, Smart, Social. Mr. Ochs is a digital citizenship expert who provides training for parents and students. He provided insight on how to use social media to create a portfolio of accomplishments to impress colleges and employers.

With social media playing an increasingly integral part in the social and emotional lives of youth, Damien High School understands the value of showing students how to think about their future and use social media as a positive portfolio of accomplishments to shine online.
Josh here from

Apple introduced a new "Screen Time Control" feature in their iOS 12 update. I wanted to send you some of the key features of this update so your family can begin to better monitor your student's screen time. 

Please forward this email to someone who finds it helpful.
Apple Screen Time: Complete Guide for Parents
Keep reading below and thank you for all the support in helping me to protect kids nationwide. 
Josh Ochs, Author and Nationwide Social Media Safety Speaker
if you find this newsletter helpful, you can join our newsletter here.

Schools: Protect your community with an online safety curriculum...

Instead of hosting a digital safety parent night at your school, many districts are now using our Parent University program to teach social media safety to their parents (and they watch it at home around the dinner table).

Also, your district/school can offer an incentive (uniform-free day, better parking, free homework night) to motivate parents and students to watch the short videos (and take the short quiz at the end). When students bring the printed quiz results to class, they get a benefit from your school. Win-Win! 

If your school wants to learn more, look over our program and use the "school" button on that page to reach out to us. Learn more about Parent University.
Social Media Safety Blog Post: 

Apple Screen Time: Complete Guide for Parents

With Apple dominating the smartphone and tablet industry, it’s important for parents to be up to date on the parental controls and monitoring features that they offer. A recent iOS update introduced a new feature called Screen Time which is the first effort from a major manufacturer to promote positive screen time behaviors. We created this Apple Screen Time: Complete Guide for Parents to help you learn how to use this new feature, keep your students safe online, and start a dialog about digital safety.

Listen to this whole episode on our podcast:

Subscribe to our podcast on: iTunes – Google Play – Stitcher Radio – Spotify – Web Player

What is Apple Screen Time?

Screen Time is a new feature for Apple’s iOS 12 that allows users to set screen time limits and see reports of how the device has been used. The feature can be configured by parents and used across devices with the same Apple ID. The Apple Screen Time feature can be found in the settings of iPhones and iPads. At the end of the week, users receive a report of their device usage from the past week.

If your family shares an iPad or iPhone, Screen Time doesn’t have the ability to track multiple users per device. Whichever Apple ID is associated with the device will dictate the Apple Screen Time settings. Parents can access Screen Time remotely on their own devices.

Apple Marketing Says:

Screen Time — a new feature of iOS 12 — lets you know how much time you and your kids spend on apps, websites, and more. This way, you can make more informed decisions about how you use your devices, and set limits if you’d like to.

What data is included in the Screen Time reports?

Users can select today or the past 7 days and review:

  • How much time the device has been in use
  • The number of notifications received
  • How much time the device has been in use
  • The most used app (and how long it was used for)
  • How many times the device has been picked up

What is the Downtime setting?

Users can schedule Downtime within the Screen Time feature. Only the apps and phone calls the user has chosen will be available during Downtime. A reminder notification will appear 5 minutes before Downtime is scheduled to start.

What is the App Limits setting?

With the App Limits setting, users can set daily limits for certain app categories and limits refresh every day at midnight. Once the app limit has been reached, the app’s icon will turn gray and have an hourglass icon next to the app name.

What is the Always Allowed setting?

Apps that are selected in the Always Allowed setting will be available during Downtime and aren’t affected by App Limits. By default, Messages, FaceTime, and Maps are Always Allowed (but users can change that within the Always Allowed setting).

What is the Content & Privacy Restrictions setting?

Using the Content & Privacy Restrictions setting, users tailor the types of content that are allowed on their device and configure what personal information apps get access to.

What is the difference between App Limits and Downtime?

  • Downtime allows users to restrict certain apps during a period of time
  • App Limits allows users to set daily time limits for certain app categories (e.g. social media and gaming)

How to turn on Screen Time:

  • On your iPhone or iPad, go to Settings > Screen Time
  • Select “Turn On Screen Time”
  • Tap “Continue”
  • Select “This is My Device” or “This is My Child’s Device”

How to configure the Downtime setting:

  • Go to Settings > Screen Time > Downtime
  • Turn Downtime on
  • Set a start and end time

How to configure the App Limits setting:

  • Go to Settings > Screen Time > App Limits
  • Tap Add Limit
  • Select an app category
  • Tap Add (upper right corner)
  • Set time limit
  • Select days of the week (optional)

How to configure the Always Allowed setting:

  • Go to Settings > Screen Time > Always Allowed
  • Tap the green plus sign to make an app Always Allowed
  • Tap the red negative sign to remove an app from the Always Allowed apps

How to configure Content & Privacy Restrictions:

  • Go to Settings > Screen Time > Content & Privacy Restrictions
  • Turn on Content & Privacy Restrictions
  • Block or allow whatever you see fit for your family

Apple Screen Time in the News:

Screen Time, part of the operating system that iPhone owners began downloading last week, represents the biggest move yet by a technology company to encourage less use of a device, not more. –Los Angeles Times

[Apple Screen Time is] less of a digital nanny and more of a virtual manager, tallying up what you do, when you do it, and helping you achieve your goals. –Forbes

What can parents do?

  • If your student has an Apple device ensure that their iOS is up to date and configure the settings within the Screen Time feature
  • Configure Screen Time settings based on what is appropriate for your student and their age
  • Don’t rely solely on Apple Screen Time to keep your children safe. Instead, have regular discussions about digital safety with your family, teach your student how they can self regulate their screen time, and empower them to use technology in a positive way

How can parents encourage positive screen time habits?

  • Model positive screen time behaviors
  • Set clear screen time guidelines and let students regulate themselves within those boundaries
  • Challenge your student to find offline activities they enjoy
  • Teach students to use social media as a tool to build their resume (as opposed to using it as a pass time)
  • Discuss the repercussions of negative screen time habits
  • Remind your student that nothing is private online


Tracking how much time your family spends on their devices (and how) is a great way to start regulating screen time and build positive habits. If anyone in your family has an Apple device, consider configuring the Screen Time settings but understand that there are still ways for students to bypass those restrictions. The best way to ensure your family’s safety online, on devices, and on social media is having regular and open discussions about digital safety. There is no substitute to being involved, using the same apps that your student uses, and creating a supportive environment for your student to learn positive screen time behaviors. Tools like Apple Screen Time help parents but they are by no means better at protecting students then parents are.

When parents understand how to set limits and dialog about them with their family they are better prepared for keeping their children safe in the digital world.

Have you tried the new Apple Screen Time feature? If so, comment below and tell us how it has (or has not) helped your family!

Listen to this whole episode on our podcast:

Subscribe to our podcast on: iTunes – Google Play – Stitcher Radio – Spotify – Web Player

Read the rest of the blog post on our blog...

Share our social media safety webinar with a friend...

Please consider sharing my NEW, FREE social media safety webinar. On this daily webinar you will learn "The negative effects of student social media (and the 25+ apps your students should avoid)." This webinar will make you a social media safety expert. Save your spot for my newest free webinar here.

Listen to our latest podcasts:

Subscribe to our podcast on: iTunes – Google Play – Stitcher Radio – Spotify – Web Player

#70 Apple Screen Time Control Feature in iOS 12 - Podcast with Josh Ochs

Screen Time is a new feature for Apple’s iOS 12 that allows users to set screen time limits and see reports of how the device has been used. The feature can be configured by parents and used across devices with the same Apple ID. The Apple Screen Time feature can be found in the settings of iPhones and iPads. At the end of the week, users receive a report of their device usage from the past week.
Subscribe to our podcast on: iTunes – Google Play – Stitcher Radio – Spotify – Web Player

#69 Teen Social Media Statistics 2018 (What Parents Need to Know) - Podcast with Josh Ochs

A new survey from Common Sense Media sheds light on teens’ changing social media habits and why some kids are more deeply affected by — and connected to — their digital worlds. The survey showcases how social media has evolved from 2012 to 2018. It will come as no surprise to many parents and educators that social media use among teens has increased dramatically (among 13- to 17-year-olds in the United States).
Subscribe to our podcast on: iTunes – Google Play – Stitcher Radio – Spotify – Web Player

#68 Instagram Has Porn (and How Your Kids Can Avoid It) - Podcast with Josh Ochs

Does your kid use Instagram? We heard from a mom who tells us how much inappropriate content her son found on this app (and why you need to have a dialog with your kids so they come to you when they see something wrong).
Subscribe to our podcast on: iTunes – Google Play – Stitcher Radio – Spotify – Web Player
Subscribe to our podcast on: iTunes – Google Play – Stitcher Radio – Spotify – Web Player
Veteran Services – The Military Guide

This site was established by veterans and family members trying to help those who served with a focus on transition to civilian life:

US Department of Veteran Affairs Crisis Hotline
Planning for Life after Discharge
Surviving Spouses Resources
Best Jobs for Returning Servicemembers
ASVAB Resources